Chick fil’ A and the two different experiences

Posted by on Dec 15, 2013 in Update | One Comment

Last night Luke and I took Phoenix out for dinner and Christmas shopping. This was the first time I had taken Phoenix out since we got back from Dallas almost 2 weeks ago. To say I was nervous was an understatement. Not only did she just have surgery, but she looks really different now – and let’s face it there are really mean people out there. We walk into Chick fil’ A  and there are 3 teenage girls standing in line, we walk past them to find a table before ordering and one of them sees Phoenix and starts giggling. As Luke and I are getting Phoenix settled and figuring out what we want I notice that the girl is not only still giggling, but now she is pointing and showing her friends and they start giggling too. I tried to remain calm. But I stared them down till the first girl saw me, and I said, “Hi.” Sternly. She giggled, “Hi” then turned around and kept giggling.

I wish I could say I didn’t break down and cry in the restaurant, but that would be lying. Definitely, got some sympathetic looks from the other customers around us. We also received a cash gift from one of the people in the drive thru and Chick fil’ A gave us extra food. The extra food was great, because Phoenix choose that  meal to get her appetite back and was eating everything in site.

Thankfully, the story doesn’t stop there. While we were eating another family came into Chick fil’ A with a daughter who was the same age as Phoenix and had Down Syndrome . We were able to talk about our daughters and where able to understand what the other was going through. They asked about Phoenix and we got to hear their story – they adopted their little one because the mother grew up with girl with Downs and held a special place in her heart for special needs kids.

I have to say though, that has been one of the most unique experiences we have had. While it did suck that those girls were to wrapped up in themselves to realize they were laughing at a baby, it was wonderful to meet another family who shares similar struggles as we do.

“People are pretty much alike. It’s only that our differences are more susceptible to definition than our similarities.”
~Linda Ellerbee


1 Comment

  1. Diana Bechtel
    December 16, 2013

    Beth,Luke,and Phoenix, I wanted to tell you how proud I am of you. I wish I could say people are just being people and teenagers are just being teenagers,but the actions of the girls just breaks my heart beyond belief. The Lord gave you the task of taking care of Phoenix, the loving task. I could think of no better people to raise that beautiful baby girl.

    Beth,I work for a young man who lives in the group home for developmentally disabled. John is 32 and has down’s. He is the brightest, funniest, and most caring young man I have ever met. God has sent me a good friend. John calls me a friend too,and I couldn’t be more privileged to know him and to help him fulfill his dreams and goals with my job.

    Please know there are many who just love your baby girl exactly the way God made her and that I pray for her often.I know this doesn’t make up for the ugliness in people’s hearts. Also know there are folks who stand with you and your desires for your daughter. I can’t wait to meet that sweetie God bless. Diana Bechtel


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